You're assuming that everyone are assholes, and that nice people just put filters on. Not true. And you should probably go see someone about that. Such a world view doesn't come out of nothing.
Lots of people are really nice without any nicety filters.
This is a symptom of psychopathy. A double edged sword in terms of societal value. While I find the argument in favor of psychological diversity compelling, I can't can't help but be revolted by psychopaths.
Lots of people are really nice without any nicety filters.