I've got two overarching points on dealing with toxic people (not limited to any particular flavor).
1) Try really hard not to be one. This is by far the most important point. You can't please all the people all the time, but really push yourself hard not to be toxic to the people around you. Physical intimidation and violence is extremely toxic behavior, which is the root of our discussion. Don't do it.
2) When faced with toxic people, get rid of them in the most permanent and expeditious manner possible. Rarely will open confrontation be your strategy of choice here. You escalate things and you find yourself with a beef taking up space in your brain and theirs, and, most importantly, jack shit to show for it. You get nothing but damage. That's a bad deal.
If you need a rule of thumb, it should be smile and walk away. Fast. Shitty boss? Smile and walk away. HR troll? Smile and walk away. Dead weight cofounder? Smile and walk away. Bad business deal? Smile and walk away.
Don't try to fix them, don't try to teach them a lesson, stay nice and get out. It might sting for a second, but over the long term I promise it will be to your benefit. I have done it both ways and my results have been conclusive. Don't snag yourself on the sunk cost fallacy. Get. Out.
1) Try really hard not to be one. This is by far the most important point. You can't please all the people all the time, but really push yourself hard not to be toxic to the people around you. Physical intimidation and violence is extremely toxic behavior, which is the root of our discussion. Don't do it.
2) When faced with toxic people, get rid of them in the most permanent and expeditious manner possible. Rarely will open confrontation be your strategy of choice here. You escalate things and you find yourself with a beef taking up space in your brain and theirs, and, most importantly, jack shit to show for it. You get nothing but damage. That's a bad deal.
If you need a rule of thumb, it should be smile and walk away. Fast. Shitty boss? Smile and walk away. HR troll? Smile and walk away. Dead weight cofounder? Smile and walk away. Bad business deal? Smile and walk away.
Don't try to fix them, don't try to teach them a lesson, stay nice and get out. It might sting for a second, but over the long term I promise it will be to your benefit. I have done it both ways and my results have been conclusive. Don't snag yourself on the sunk cost fallacy. Get. Out.