>On top of that, I'm the only one expected to work these ridiculous hours
If you're anything like me, that's just a self-imposed expectation. Otherwise, you should tell your partner that you're going to work fewer hours. Maybe 6 hour days.
Whatever you need to stay healthy. I think you hold a lot of leverage that you need to exercise.
I was recently in the exact same position with my partner (I'm also the only programmer) and it was all resolved by being open and honest. Talk it out.
Also, take a break for an entire week. Try your best to not think about the project. Your life doesn't depend on it :)
If you're anything like me, that's just a self-imposed expectation. Otherwise, you should tell your partner that you're going to work fewer hours. Maybe 6 hour days.
Whatever you need to stay healthy. I think you hold a lot of leverage that you need to exercise.
I was recently in the exact same position with my partner (I'm also the only programmer) and it was all resolved by being open and honest. Talk it out.
Also, take a break for an entire week. Try your best to not think about the project. Your life doesn't depend on it :)