Different people can be helped by different things. I think it's rather odd to take something said by somebody who was in the middle of planning his own suicide, and who got stopped because a certain event made him think about something he hadn't considered, and say that thinking about this particular thing doesn't help. It helped him, therefore clearly it can help.
I think that this particular issue is very sensitive, and very personal, and very individualized. Indeed, sometimes a reminder of the ties we have to the living world is a good thing at any time. For some, thinking of others and the impact their death might have on those around them is in fact enough to get them through a particularly bad spell.
I think that it's important to note that it's not a feeling of guilt that should be focused on here. It's a feeling of connection. There are people who care and can help if you reach out. There are people who care.
Of course it's not always enough. If it were, people would never commit suicide, would they?
There is a great deal to be said for holding on for others those times you can't hold on for yourself. After all, life is very much a series of highs and lows.. sometimes, you need to latch onto whatever you can to get you through the lows.
