I see your point, but there’s also a lot of solid research out there about what does and doesn’t tend to work (admittedly alongside even more terrible pseudoscience and conflicting anecdotal advice). Just because we can’t be perfect doesn’t mean it’s not worth putting serious thought, effort, and discussion into how we can move the ball forward.

Not very long ago, parents used to routinely beat up their kids, and this was considered socially acceptable. In that case, it’s a good thing we had some judgmental know-it-alls around to tell everyone it wasn’t such a good idea.