> And no one will help. "Doctors". Useless garbage.

I don't know why you put "doctors" in quotes, but I feel the need to correct you here: medications is generally speaking very effective for people with ADHD, and psychiatrists are becoming more and more aware of treatments.

Once you get an official diagnostic you can generally get access to treatments based on stimulants (very effective to be able to behave more-or-less normally, but takes quite some time to find correct medication + dosage, has side-effects, and can be difficult to legally obtain depending on your country law due to their Schedule II status), antidepressants (can help with both ADHD symptoms and comorbidities such as anxiety disorder and depressive personality disorders, also often easier to get access to), or therapy (Cognitive Behaviour Therapy for example).

The understanding of adult ADHD is still very recent, quite limited, and not well spread out. But you do have solutions. I would recommend checking out "Taking charge of adult ADHD" by Russell Barkley, the book is written in a way that can be parsed relatively quickly and gives a good overview of the diagnostic process, treatments, coping mechanisms, etc.

> medications is generally speaking very effective for people with ADHD

It sometimes helps with some symptoms, and not permanently. Mainly, the stimulants increase your activation energy and 'concentration'.

> But you do have solutions

No, there isn't a "solution". ADHD is adaptive and wide-ranging. With ADHD, you will always needs to be aware of your deficits and how to work around them. However, therapy can indeed help with that and reducing some of them.

A significant subset of people do find their doctors unsympathetic and find it hard, especially given the ADHD, to access potential treatment, so it's understandable that your parent post is venting frustration. Not everyone has the option to change doctor or push against an unsympathetic system.

At no point does a "solution for ADHD" implies that the whole thing would disappear, that's not how behavioral/development disorders work. You do have ways to deal with the symptoms, as you said, by using stimulants and/or via therapy (also helps with other mental issues, ADHD has a lot of comorbidities). As I said in my other comments, you also have some form of antidepressant that can help, but that varies a lot between individuals (same for stimulants by the way). I don't know why you use quotes around "concentration", for an ADHD brain stimulants make it possible to behave more or less normally, without hyperfocus phases and a terrible work-memory.

I have learned I have ADHD 3 weeks ago reading a similar list of symptoms and I've been in a total haze since because I've found a name for my life long struggles. I've paid a psych a great sum of money to be tested now, I want an answer immediately and hopefully I can start leading a normal life as soon as possible. I'm done fighting my unmotivated brain every single day.

Your comment makes me scared I'm gonna be told I'm just fucking lazy instead, but don't give up brother. To an ADHD brain, death sounds fucking boring.

Ignore them. Medication can and does help with ADHD, as someone who was diagnosed at 31 the biggest problem was addressing various coping mechanisms I'd developed that were no longer useful thanks to medication. And I was amazed to wake up in the morning and remember something I thought before I went to bed and had thought "I should remember that." after a couple of weeks on medication.

> And I was amazed to wake up in the morning and remember something I thought before I went to bed and had thought "I should remember that." after a couple of weeks on medication.

I'm aware of my ADHD for some time now and I'm trying to get myself to have a proper diagnosis done. I thought I was pretty well aware of how it influences my life by now, but I would have never thought that remembering such things from before going to bed is actually possible at all!

meds don't really affect my memory too greatly... it's more like I take my Vyvanse at 7am, roll over and sleep a bit more or read the news on Reddit or something and after an hour...I start thinking about work and what I want to get done today... then I'm hyper focused until I'm forced to stop because of my wife or until I'm exhausted or until something or someone pisses me off... I'm pretty sure I'm asd too cause I can sometimes just lose it and have a two year old style meltdown... where I know it's not right to feel that way but can't snap out of it...

basically if I've planned my next 5 actions if something interrupts the plan I get to feeling like my entire world is set on fire or crashing down...

I also have entire conversations in my head and I talk way too long on subjects that really interest me.... to the point of boring other participants in the conversation...

but damn if I find someone as interested as me... we're besties and can discuss the thing for 6 hours or longer lol.

I'm 42 now, I think I just learned to cope in society because I'm usually more prone to outbursts when my guard is down... like I'm expecting a relaxing dinner at a holiday and the in-laws say something to trigger me.... I'm really good at chewing on things... everyone here is republican and love country music...

I can't send ether but I bite my tongue because I know I'll trigger them then one of us is gonna have a meltdown, usually me... and I lose favorability points...I guess in a way my silence is my preplanning to avoid a bad outcome... plus my precog conversation I have before opening my mouth usually helps me predict if it's worth it or not..... sometimes my mental conversation is pleasing enough or if it's like asking my wife something I'll assume we've already had the conversation because the mental model version went really well so I can skip the real version right?

For me the ban on indoor smoking was a godsend in that it gave me an open excuse to duck out of a situation and spend some time on my own recombobulating without it being considered a massive breach of etiquette. If things start getting triggering I go and smoke and read my book on my phone, usually resets me nicely.