> And no one will help. "Doctors". Useless garbage.
I don't know why you put "doctors" in quotes, but I feel the need to correct you here: medications is generally speaking very effective for people with ADHD, and psychiatrists are becoming more and more aware of treatments.
Once you get an official diagnostic you can generally get access to treatments based on stimulants (very effective to be able to behave more-or-less normally, but takes quite some time to find correct medication + dosage, has side-effects, and can be difficult to legally obtain depending on your country law due to their Schedule II status), antidepressants (can help with both ADHD symptoms and comorbidities such as anxiety disorder and depressive personality disorders, also often easier to get access to), or therapy (Cognitive Behaviour Therapy for example).
The understanding of adult ADHD is still very recent, quite limited, and not well spread out. But you do have solutions. I would recommend checking out "Taking charge of adult ADHD" by Russell Barkley, the book is written in a way that can be parsed relatively quickly and gives a good overview of the diagnostic process, treatments, coping mechanisms, etc.
> medications is generally speaking very effective for people with ADHD
It sometimes helps with some symptoms, and not permanently. Mainly, the stimulants increase your activation energy and 'concentration'.
> But you do have solutions
No, there isn't a "solution". ADHD is adaptive and wide-ranging. With ADHD, you will always needs to be aware of your deficits and how to work around them. However, therapy can indeed help with that and reducing some of them.
A significant subset of people do find their doctors unsympathetic and find it hard, especially given the ADHD, to access potential treatment, so it's understandable that your parent post is venting frustration. Not everyone has the option to change doctor or push against an unsympathetic system.
At no point does a "solution for ADHD" implies that the whole thing would disappear, that's not how behavioral/development disorders work. You do have ways to deal with the symptoms, as you said, by using stimulants and/or via therapy (also helps with other mental issues, ADHD has a lot of comorbidities). As I said in my other comments, you also have some form of antidepressant that can help, but that varies a lot between individuals (same for stimulants by the way). I don't know why you use quotes around "concentration", for an ADHD brain stimulants make it possible to behave more or less normally, without hyperfocus phases and a terrible work-memory.
I don't know why you put "doctors" in quotes, but I feel the need to correct you here: medications is generally speaking very effective for people with ADHD, and psychiatrists are becoming more and more aware of treatments.
Once you get an official diagnostic you can generally get access to treatments based on stimulants (very effective to be able to behave more-or-less normally, but takes quite some time to find correct medication + dosage, has side-effects, and can be difficult to legally obtain depending on your country law due to their Schedule II status), antidepressants (can help with both ADHD symptoms and comorbidities such as anxiety disorder and depressive personality disorders, also often easier to get access to), or therapy (Cognitive Behaviour Therapy for example).
The understanding of adult ADHD is still very recent, quite limited, and not well spread out. But you do have solutions. I would recommend checking out "Taking charge of adult ADHD" by Russell Barkley, the book is written in a way that can be parsed relatively quickly and gives a good overview of the diagnostic process, treatments, coping mechanisms, etc.