For the most part, we are all forgettable, and it doesn't matter what we do won't be memorable for most people.
When you think about it, you are a single person looking at out the world. You are neither a collective, or part of an explicit audience. It's your eyes, and your thoughts looking out. There may be 100 people around you, and each one of them will be having their singular experience.
A very small number of them will be having sharing their 1 person experience with your 1 person experience. But it is still them.
Look around next time you are the gym - notice how many people are actually looking around. (Of course if you are looking around quickly, you might get a few more eye contacts than you would otherwise).
Make sure you are not looking out and judging others, I know a number of people who can't even consider doing anything that might get a gaze. But they are also the first person to comment about others. It's a tiny, tiny percentage of people who do that though.
Building resilience is probably the biggest direct action you can take. Choose one thing that is just uncomfortable and do it. Do that every week. As you push your boundaries of what makes you uncomfortable, you will find that the comfort buffer that you had around you was much, much thicker than you expected.
Now there will be times you may step into something and you may actually awkward. But even then, you will learn where that boundary is, and with friends it will become a story. With strangers it will just be a easily forgotten anecdote.
For the most part, we are all forgettable, and it doesn't matter what we do won't be memorable for most people.
When you think about it, you are a single person looking at out the world. You are neither a collective, or part of an explicit audience. It's your eyes, and your thoughts looking out. There may be 100 people around you, and each one of them will be having their singular experience.
A very small number of them will be having sharing their 1 person experience with your 1 person experience. But it is still them.
Look around next time you are the gym - notice how many people are actually looking around. (Of course if you are looking around quickly, you might get a few more eye contacts than you would otherwise).
Make sure you are not looking out and judging others, I know a number of people who can't even consider doing anything that might get a gaze. But they are also the first person to comment about others. It's a tiny, tiny percentage of people who do that though.
Building resilience is probably the biggest direct action you can take. Choose one thing that is just uncomfortable and do it. Do that every week. As you push your boundaries of what makes you uncomfortable, you will find that the comfort buffer that you had around you was much, much thicker than you expected.
Now there will be times you may step into something and you may actually awkward. But even then, you will learn where that boundary is, and with friends it will become a story. With strangers it will just be a easily forgotten anecdote.