It was realizing I could train my mind/social abilities the same way I trained my body in the gym. In the gym, if your goal is to increase strength you build up slowly incrementing weights as you get stronger. The same idea can be applied to the mind. I realized I was very awkward in situations where I didn’t know people, so I started coming up with little workouts to train myself to be more comfortable with strangers- the easiest thing is to give complements. You’re in line to get a coffee, you see someone with cool shoes “nice shoes” and the person says “thanks!” Then when that gets easy, you increase the challenge.